Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus - The Facts

Here's a scenario: you're having a lovely dinner with your wife or girlfriend and just as you slice into your steak, she looks you dead in the eye and blurts out, "You've been ignoring me lately. Don't you love me anymore? Is there someone else?"

There's fire in her eyes but the only thing you can think of is, "What in God's wonderful world is she talking about? Where is this crazy act coming from?!"

Guys, if you've ever been there, raise your hand. Yes, I mean you.

Well, the truth of the matter is: men and women are different - not just physically, but emotionally and psychologically too. It's a fact. And most relationship problems are caused by these differences.

So, we're going to explore a few of them here today. 

1.Definition of love

Men:

For a man, respect falls right at the top of the list in his definition of love.  That means he needs to be listened to, consulted when decisions are made and not talked down to as if he's a child. Gifts and compliments don't mean much to a man if he feels undermined and disrespected. To him, love is respect.

Women:

The Bible refers to women as "weaker vessels." In a nutshell, this means women are more sensitive and have more emotional needs than men. Women need to be told, "I love you", "I miss you" and "I'm proud of you" on a regular basis.  We thrive on compliments and constant acts of affection. To a woman, that's love.

2. Silence

Men:

Psychologists say men have something called an "empty box" in their minds. This is a place where they don't think about anything. They are not worried, stressed or angry, they're just quiet. 

A man in his empty box may give one-word answers when you ask him questions or reply with a "Hmm". He may stare at the TV with a blank expression on his face and not respond to conversation. Ladies, note: he's not fighting with you. He's in his empty box.

Women:

Empty what? There's no such thing as an empty box in a woman's vocabulary. It doesn't matter where she's from - the thickest jungle in Africa, the North Pole or Timbuktu - a woman doesn't have an empty box. Women think, speak and feel all sorts of things all the time. To a woman, continual silence means war. In our book, silence is a ruthless form of torture often used by the male species to drive women insane. So guys, please understand why women go berserk when you suddenly go mute.

3. Physical touch

Men:

Touching a man's arm or giving a shoulder massage is interpreted by most men as, "She's looking for some sexual attention." Physical touch, no matter how tiny, has been proven to have sexual connotations to most men. It's just the way they're wired. So ladies, if you don't want to send the wrong message, avoid touching guys willy nilly.

Women:

Guys, when a woman gives you a hug, she often means, "I appreciate you." and when she asks for a massage, she's thinking, "My shoulders are aching. I'd remove them if I could." In most cases, it's not an invitation for sexual favors. Women need hugs and hand-holding for their emotional well-being. But, there are some desperate women out there who"ll do anything to get a man's attention. So guys, beware. If she's not your woman, DO NOT get touchy-feely with her!

4.Dealing with conflict

Men:

A man can have a heated argument with his Sweetheart, reach a consensus and immediately (and I mean 'immediately') put on his happy face, start raving about soccer, crack jokes and laugh hysterically. A man can also shelve an explosive relationship problem for sometime while he attends to business, plays sport, watches the News and hangs out with his buddies. He can even get romantic while keeping the explosive issue shelved somewhere at the back of his mind. Only when he's ready does he discuss the problem, and not a moment sooner.

Women:

A woman may need several hours to a day or two to recuperate from a major argument. Most women can't switch from disappointment and anger to hysterical happiness in an instant. We often need a bit more time to get over certain things. When there's an explosive issue brewing in a relationship, a woman is likely to carry the frustration and anger with her everywhere she goes. She will only let it go after the matter has been completely resolved.

5. Decision-making

Men:

Men are logical creatures. By nature, they make fact-based decisions. A man will do the math, consider the stats, check the physical evidence and use the results to make an important decision.

Women:

Women are wired to use their intuition or 6th sense when making important decisions. That's why guys will often hear us say things like, "I have a bad feeling about this." Intuition is an internal compass that God built into women, to help us discern right from wrong.

Conclusion:

Ultimately, men and women need each other. The men need the women's gentleness, sensitivity and warmth in their lives, while we, the ladies, need the men's strength, assurance and protection so that we can thrive. When making decisions, logic and intuition must be combined and balanced.

Men may be from Mars and women from Venus, but together, we are an unstoppable force!

Men	Women
1.       Love = respect	Love = being wanted, pursued and spoiled with attention, gifts and compliments.
2.       Have moments of silence just for the heck of it	Silence means something is terribly wrong.
3.       Physical touch triggers sexual feelings	Physical touch creates feelings of safety, security and reassurance.
4. Compartmentalise problems	Can hold on to offence and various problems for long period of time
5. Make fact-based decisions	Depend on their intuition

Men	Women
Need women	Need men