It just wasn't meant to be...

When seemingly glorious relationships suddenly come to a screeching halt, many of us are quick to think, "It's because I wasn't good enough." or "There's something wrong with me."

Well, I've got some good news for you. You couldn't be more wrong! If someone doesn't love you and isn't destined to be a part of your life, they won't love you no matter what you do or don't do. 

They may have a temporary crush on you or even be infatuated with you for a few months to a few years, but as soon as calamity strikes, they're likely to cut their losses and walk away.

You'll be surprised to find that the same guy who complained that you talk too much finally married a chatterbox who rattles on and on and ON about anything and everything. Or that the girl who said you had too much emotional baggage, eventually settled down with a bankrupt divorcee who has six kids with different women.

Have you ever noticed that most drop-dead gorgeous, wealthy and successful men and women are single? That's because true love really has nothing to do with great looks, money, prestige or power.

How much time and money have you spent buying clothes you hated just to impress some guy or girl who later broke your heart? Or drastically changing your hairstyle in the hopes of catching the eye of a certain person who really couldn't care less? Or eating close to nothing for months on end so you could slim down for someone who later turned out to be a creep?

You may have even given the loser the most precious gift of all - your virginity, and he or she still dropped you like a hot potato. Whatever your story may be, I'm here to tell you right now: there's nothing wrong with you. You are amazing, outstanding and phenomenal just the way you are. Find the One and forget the rest!

The One will love you with all your flaws and imperfections.  And when the going gets tough, they'll be willing to hang in there and work things out. If someone wants you to look a certain way, dress a certain way and speak a certain way before they can love you, they're not the One. Let them go!

Believe me, when the One finally comes along, you'll know it. They'll respect you and bring out the best in you. They'll treat you like the most amazing person on the planet, even with all your cellulite, stretch marks, wrinkles and acne break-outs. They'll genuinely laugh at your jokes and get your dry sense of humor. They'll even admire your weird hairstyles and wacky personal style.

So, stop blaming yourself and making yourself miserable over all the relationships that just didn't work out. It wasn't entirely your fault - they were just never meant to be.

Shake off the inferiority complex, smile and get ready for the best love of your life! An out-of-this-world love story awaits you...and it will end with a happily-ever-after!

In closing, here's to glorious, joy-filled relationships and happy endings!

5 types of women that men simply can't stand

When relationships fall apart, most women are quick to point a finger at the men and to say things like, "It's not my fault, he had no ambition whatsoever" or "He was just a momma's boy." But if we actually stop and take a good look at ourselves, we may realize that we're the ones at fault sometimes.

Well, I've found that there are 5 types of women that have an uncanny ability to drive men up the wall and out of their lives. Are you one of them?

1.  The bragging, self-centered woman
This is the type of woman who brags endlessly about her achievements and belittles everyone around her, including her man. She rattles on and on about her new car, her promotion at work and her latest awards but rolls her eyes when others talk about their own lives and personal interests.

She doesn't value her man's opinion because she thinks she has everything all figured out. In fact, she believes she's the man in the relationship. During arguments, she won't hesitate to hiss, "I'm the one making all the money here, so you should just shut up and do as I say."

Ladies, don't get me wrong - it's good to be ambitious, successful and to make money, but that should never be an excuse for you to act like a spoiled, arrogant brat. You can be the boss at work, a prestigious Business guru or the top student at school, but you need to realize that relationships are all about caring, compassion and compromise. Never, ever wave your wealth in your man's face or use your achievements to make him feel small. Show him respect and treat him like a man.

2. The loud-mouthed, nagging woman
This is the screeching, complaining woman who finds fault with everything and everyone. She's aggressive, ruthless and has verbal wars with just about everyone she meets. This woman bosses her man around and tells him what to do, where to go, what to eat and how to eat it.

She's always ready for a confrontation. Her motto is "Speak first, think later." Hurling insults and throwing around a bunch of baseless accusations is her favorite hobby. Her man dreads receiving text messages or phone calls from her because of her tendency to quarrel  and criticize.

My darling, if this describes you, it's time to change! No man in his right mind wants to be with a rude, insensitive maniac who constantly bites his head off. Make an effort to listen more and speak less. If you're angry, take time to cool off before you open your mouth to say anything. Acknowledge your man's achievements and show your appreciation for all the wonderful things he does. Take it from me, it will work wonders for your relationship!

3. The unprincipled, unscrupulous diva
Now, this one is like a character in a late night movie. She flirts and exchanges numbers with  every Jack, Tom and Harry, stays out all night and lies about her whereabouts. She'll gladly sleep with any man who buys her dinner and drives a flashy car. She has no self-respect, no standards and is absolutely shameless.

A lot of women are under the impression that men want someone who is spontaneous, adventurous and somewhat wild. But the truth is: men want someone who is spontaneous, adventurous and wild - with them and nobody else.

They want someone who is dignified, has tonnes of self-respect and is trustworthy. They want someone they can trust to be faithful no matter what. If you're presenting yourself as being slutty and easy, no good man will want to build a future with you. And just because a man beds you doesn't mean he loves you. Don't lie to yourself.

4. The woman without any family values
This is the kind of woman who hates her siblings, curses at her father and exchanges blows with her mother. A woman who simply cannot live in peace and harmony with other people.

She breaks all the house rules and has no concern for anyone but herself. She can easily prepare lavish meals for herself and live in the lap of luxury while her family starves right before her very eyes.

Baby girl, there is nothing cute about turning your back on your family. We all know the saying, "Charity begins at home." Real men want a good woman who'll love them and their families... someone who'll be kind and caring, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health.  And they are able to tell whether you are the right kind of woman based on the way you treat your own family.

5. The lazy, directionless woman
This is the type of woman who spends the entire day in her pyjamas, watching TV and painting her nails. She passes up opportunities to further her studies and refuses to show up for job interviews.  She's not sick or incapacitated in any way, but simply detests the idea of hard work.

She lets the dishes pile up in the sink for days on end and isn't willing to cook, clean the house or do the laundry because she might miss an episode of her favorite soap opera. She has no desire to contribute to society in any way and has no dreams or ambitions of her own.

Ladies, if this is you, you need to wake up and smell the coffee. There's nothing attractive about being lazy. Don't let your intelligence and creativity go to waste. Find something to do - go to school, bake, start a book-club, volunteer in a community project or get a job. It will develop you mentally and emotionally, give you something to look forward to and make you a whole lot more interesting. And if you're lucky, you might be able to make a bit of money while you're at it.

If you have been one of these 5 types, it's never too late to turn over a new leaf. You can start over, today, right now. The best in life awaits you!

Find and keep true love!

 I know a LOT of people that find true love but it just seems to mysteriously slip through their fingers for no apparent reason. People who at one moment are head over heels in love, but before anyone can say "Confetti" it's all over. Guys and girls whose theme song is James Blunt's "Goodbye my lover..."

Maybe you've been there yourself, or are in that position right now. After tonnes of soul-searching and research, I found these pointers, which can help cement a relationship so that it survives the storms of life.

1. Don't air your dirty relationship laundry in public
I'll get straight to the point on this one. Don't broadcast your relationship problems to anyone and everyone who cares to listen. A lot of relationships fall apart because too much information is given to all the wrong people. Not everyone who offers a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen has your relationship's best interests at heart. If you're going through a rough patch in your love life and need to let off some steam, talk to a Counselor or trusted friend. Don't expose your issues to the whole world.

2. Don't criticize your partner publicly
You may not agree with everything your Sweetheart thinks, says or does, but don't expose their weaknesses and flaws to other people. Criticizing your partner in the presence of all and sundry only gives your haters the ammunition they need to completely annihilate your relationship. So, always present a united front publicly and iron out your issues behind closed doors.

3. Watch your tone!
If you constantly treat your man like a creep, make endless demands and question his every move, he'll eventually find someone who treats him like a king - someone who always smiles, cheers him on and tells him that he's the most wonderful creature under the sun. And guys, if you're ever telling your girl how fat she is, how terrible she looks in that outfit and are fond of incessantly talking about everything that's wrong with her, she'll find a man who appreciates all her 'curves and all her edges, all her perfect imperfections.' So, cut the nagging, complaining and criticism. It's good to be honest about what you don't like, but don't make a habit of focusing on the negative. If you have nothing nice to say, sometimes it's just better to keep your mouth shut.

4. No secrets!
We all have haters out there who'd love nothing better than to expose our dark and twisted past to our new man or lady, and then sit back and watch us squirm. So, beat them to the punch by telling your partner everything about your life before they hear it from somebody else. If you were married before, have a child or were in prison, talk about it. Total honesty will build trust between the 2 of you and make it easier for your partner to have your back when the town gossips start rumour-mongering.

5. Beware of inappropriate friendships
Watch out for associations that resemble romantic liasons and divert your focus from your actual dating relationship. These tend to keep you busy while sucking the life, excitement and intimacy from your relationship with your partner. So, set clear boundaries for the people around you and let them know that your partner comes first in everything - not 2nd, 3rd, 4th or last! Ladies, if a handsome co-worker invites you to a party at his place, tell him that you'd like to bring your man. And guys, when that cute secretary asks you to help her move into her new apartment, let her know that you're either bringing your Sweetheart or not showing up at all. Don't entertain any behavior or friendship that could potentially jeopardize your relationship.

6. Pray!
I know some don't subscribe to this, but I'll say it anyway. Pray! It'll help you find the right person for you, heal your soul after a traumatic break-up and reveal those things that you need to work on so that you have a loving, happy and secure relationship.

I hope these pointers help as you build your happily-ever-after. Please let me know what you think and feel free to share your own pointers and relationship experiences on this page.

Love and blessings!