Sure, you'll have romantic candle-lit dinners, walks under the stars and loads of fun and laughter, but there'll also be arguments, sickness, crying babies and annoying habits that'll nearly drive both of you insane.
There'll be morning breath, times when you see your partner with out her weave or make up on, and days when you think, "This marriage thing isn't the fairytale I thought it was gonna be." It's no wonder then that divorce rates are astronomically high in Hollywood and around the globe.
So, before you sprint to the altar, here are a few pointers:
Don't get married if:
1. You're only doing it to please your family, friends, boss or church
The decision to get married should be made by you and your Sweetheart, not by your mom, sister, grandpa,great aunt, priest or hair-dresser. Their opinions may offer some helpful insight, but the choice to walk down the aisle ultimately belongs to you. After all, you're the one who's going to live with that guy or girl and deal with his or her erratic mood-swings,annoying mannerisms and weird preferences.
2. You're not in love
If you're a believer in life-long companionship and living happily ever after, don't marry someone you're not in love with. It really doesn't matter if they're super-rich, drop dead gorgeous or incredibly intelligent. To a very large extent, marriage is about compromise. It's hard enough to tolerate the blunders and mess-ups of someone you love with all your heart. It's a hundred times harder to compromise with a partner if you'd rather be with someone else.
Being in love is the special ingredient that'll bring excitement and a sense of adventure to your marriage. It'll also give you the determination to keep going during the not-so pleasant times. With out love, you're likely to take off at the slightest hint of trouble.
3. Your 6th sense is telling you to run in the opposite direction
In the absence of solid evidence of impending danger, it's important to listen to your gut when it comes issues to do with your partner and relationship. If something just doesn't feel right, don't shrug it off. Chances are that your gut feeling is on point. Take time to learn more about yourself, your partner and your relationship before making a life-long commitment. It may save you from a horrific nightmare later on.
4. You're hoping to 'save' your partner from themselves
If your Sweetheart suffers from chronic depression, has anger issues or struggles with addictions, take things slow. If you're planning on getting married in the hopes of rescuing them from their problems, forget it! A wedding ring will not miraculously transform your partner into a saint. In other words, the altar will NOT alter your partner. Leave the rehabilitation treatments and counseling to the professionals. 'Romantic therapy' never works.
5. You've seen danger warning signs in your partner and / or relationship
So, the love of your life is in the habit of getting high on a daily basis, beating the daylights out of you or cheating on you with every Jack, Jill, Tom or Sally. Don't get married - unless of course you enjoy being stressed and victimized. Marriage doesn't have magic powers to change a devious partner at the drop of a hat. You're much better off walking off into the sunset than down the aisle.
These are a few critical factors which aspiring brides and grooms can consider before they say, "I do". Can you think of anymore? I'd love to hear from you.
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